In 2019, I was stuck. I was in a job I hated at a bank, on a work visa, and I kept escaping into dating so I didn’t have to face where I was. That year, I made changes I never thought I could make, and they led me to the life I have now.
I’ve turned those changes into a free workbook, so you can work through them for your own life, one step at a time.
It goes with my YouTube video, How to finally change your life after being stuck for so long, on my channel, Ellen Nguyen. You can use the workbook on its own, or watch the video first if you want to know why each step matters.
What’s inside
Face yourself and audit your life. Write about where you are, question the goals you feel behind on, and look at what you have.
Stop what you can, and stabilise what you need. Find what drains you and decide what to remove, reduce or protect.
Choose one manageable goal and define success. Work backwards from where you want to be to something you can do next week.
Add things that build your foundations. Pick one thing that meets a need you found in your audit.
Keep working on the inside as you act. Write to your future self and record the moments you choose yourself.
How to use it
Work through it in order. Step 1 takes the longest, so give it an evening or split it over a few days.
Download it first, then type straight into the PDF and save it. You can also print it and write by hand.
Each section has a short example. They all follow one made-up person, so you can see how the steps connect.
Tell me in the comments: what is one goal you’re choosing to focus on, and what will you do towards it this week?
If you have feedback on the workbook, I’d love to hear it. Email me at [email protected].
P.S. If you'd like to apply this to your dating life, join my Ruthless Dating Masterclass: Stop Hoping He's the One and Start Dating on Your Terms on Saturday 14 November, 6pm to 8.30pm UK time, live on Zoom.
Most of us were taught to judge ourselves and men on the wrong things. In this masterclass, I'll show you what to look for instead, so you can tell early who is serious, date like you matter, and stop wasting time on people who were never going to meet your needs.
